Its always the little things...

As salam o alaikum! 


Well, first of all, I'd need to clear a huge misunderstanding that was caused in a reader's mind, and most probably, a lot of them. 
Who am I? Why do I write? Who the he** do I think I am? Why do I believe people should read me? 
A very simple answer to this question would be; I am Maryam, a 20 year old girl that wants to learn and teach, and experience life at its best. 
Why do I have a blog? 
Hmm, well, the biggest reason to this has to be, I like to express myself in my own way. My vocabulary isn't extraordinarily fascinating. My writing, sometimes, might not even make that much sense. But I basically write about the things, the events that happen around me, and specially when they do not go as planned, expected or desired. Sometimes, I feel like changing myself into someone who is much better, more understanding towards a situation. Therefore, I write! Not to advice you people, but to show an opinion on how a situation could have been a little bit better, or best, if the thoughts or ideas behind it were different or more, lets say, mature. 


I do not consider myself a chick who knows-it-all. I don't know anything, apart from what I have seen, heard, gone through, and learnt. I perceive situations in ways that sometimes seem self-centered. But may be because I am not allowed to see the other side of the story, I am left with no option but to tell myself constantly that may be, things went the way they were supposed to, or I could have done better. So, while reading this blog, make sure you don't end up converting yourself into me, or misjudging the very concept of my posts. I do not, and I repeat, I do NOT intend to advice or act like a boss. All I wanna do is; spread the message of hope and positive attitude. Because these two things basically bring all the difference in me, you and everyone else. Those are the traits that would separate us from the desperate, gloomy and dark side of the world. Hope, positive behavior and optimism make us the 'bright people'.


Hope; the feeling that what is wanted can be had. 
I, personally, do not describe 'hope' as a feeling, but more as a lifestyle. You can chose to be in despair 24 hours a day, or you can be hopeful for one hour in those 24 hours, and not feel the darkness, the grief in yourself for the rest of the day. 


Basically, a human needs to assert himself that to attain a certain quality, he needs to put the required effort. If he wants to sound good, then prior to that, he would need to become a good listener. Because that's how he'd be able to understand the literal meaning of 'sounding nice'. Same is, when you want things to make you happy, you need to frame yourself and your thoughts accordingly. You need to tell yourself that everything around you is right. And whatever is leading you towards sadness is just another challenge which needs to be faced and, then, sorted out. 


Sometimes people find the very 'easy' way out of hardships; giving up. Which is, according to all literature and Hollywood alike, Cowardly. Most probably because they are too scared of a certain failure or, may be, they just don't feel themselves as good enough. But then again the question rises, how much good is good enough? 
I say, any man who can think about what he has to do, and realizes the consequences, is good enough to face, literally, anything. My belief is, all you need is your mind to constantly assure you that things are eventually going to make sense, once and for all. When you stop complicating the simple things, the beauties of life, such as - love, care, sincerity, kindness and smiles - thats when you discover that every little act you do, every little effort you put into life, is much bigger than your thoughts and imagination. 


If you give love, you might not get the exact return, but the feeling inside of being there for someone, is simply amazing.
If you smile, you might not smile forever, but you'll know the true meaning of it after crying for a little while. 
If you care for someone, they might not give back exactly the way you desired, but in the long run, that care would become the part of your character, and you'll be among those who the world refers as 'humans'. 


Hope is, basically, making yourself believe that life is not as bad as it could have been. Its about the very moment when you're going to make another attempt on hurting someone, but you don't, hoping that they would realize how much you care for them. 
Its about that one second when you're going to assume the worst result of a given challenge, but you tell yourself,"I'll put everything I got, and let my fate decide the rest."


Life, does not come easy for any of us. For a lot of people, it doesn't come easy, at all. But they still survive. They still manage to wake up every single day with a smile on their faces. How? Well, that's the most exact definition of hope! To make your survival 'worth-living', you have to live a simple yet beautiful life. You have to make all the complications xyz turn into simple ABC. Its rather a fairy-tale idea that hope can make everything all right. But ask someone, who was about to lose a loved one in an accident, but hoped the other way round. Ask some student who gave exams during a hard time of their life, and hoped that they would do as great as they wished to. 


Hope is not about sitting on your desk, waiting for your job to be done. Its more of, doing your job with all the hard work and passion in yourself, and guaranteeing your heart that the results are going to be good. 


Life is simple. It consists of simple things; a beautiful smile, a kind gesture, a heart-warming prayer, and a lot of things that are around you which make your inner sense feel better. 
Don't make it complicated enough to make you nervous or afraid. 


As life does not need big words. Our days do not need our regrets. The constantly passing hours don't want us to waste another one in hate or nervousness. Most of the times, we need to break the barriers, cross the limits of self-love or hate, and look beyond it. There are a lot of people on the list who love us, and want our love. Who cherish us, and expect the same from us. 

Do not despair. Because if things are not going your way, then they are definitely reaching towards a different destination, better than you could ever plan for. Stay positive in your thoughts, and satisfied in your heart, and LORD willing, everything would be all right!


- FiamanALLAH!